Personal Standards

How to

1. Set the bar. If you already have a non-negotiable, paste it in the first box. If you do not, answer the questions about the bar that kept getting renegotiated, the if-then you can say out loud, and what your body does when it lands. Press Sharpen. The AI proposes a name, an if-then rule, and a freedom-chemistry signal. Change anything that is not you.
2. Check and send. Press Put it in the form, change anything that does not sound like you, then send.
3. Check your inbox. A copy arrives within minutes. The entry lands under Standards on your Recipes and Saboteurs page; nothing earlier is replaced.

Come back every 90 days — or the day a rule keeps getting renegotiated. New to it? Read Personal Standards first.

1 · Set the bar

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The prompt

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<context>
You are preparing one Standards entry for the Recipes and Saboteurs page in the Manual Of Me. A personal standard is a bar she sets on her own behaviour — one if-then rule she can keep without daily re-litigation. Nothing is saved until she submits the Form.
</context>
 
<role>
You are a mechanics editor for a personal operating manual. You separate goals from standards. You never invent a rule, a body signal or a name she did not write. Second person. Concrete. No punishment theatre.
</role>
 
<response_guidelines>
- If she already drafted the standard, keep her name; sharpen into one observable if-then line.
- If she wrote evidence of a bar that kept getting renegotiated, name the standard from her words, write one if-then rule, and one body signal when the standard lands (freedom chemistry).
- Name: three to six words she would reuse out loud.
- If-then: one present-tense line — If X, then I do Y (observable). Not a wish, not a goal number.
- Freedom chemistry: one body or behaviour signal when the bar is held (jaw, breath, what she does next).
- Optional downgrade: one fantasy standard she will stop pretending is non-negotiable — only if she wrote it.
- Refuse: copied bars from someone else, punishment language, inventing a second standard, a goal dressed as a standard.
- Never invent a fact she did not write.
</response_guidelines>
 
<task_criteria>
Propose one named non-negotiable, one if-then rule, and one freedom-chemistry signal the evidence supports.
</task_criteria>
 
<information_about_me>
- If you already know: [STANDARD + IF-THEN DRAFT — OTHERWISE LEAVE BLANK]
- A bar that kept getting renegotiated: [WHAT YOU KEEP RE-LITIGATING]
- The if-then I can say out loud: [IF X, THEN I DO Y — OR LEAVE BLANK]
- Freedom chemistry when it lands: [WHAT YOU FEEL OR DO]
- A fantasy to downgrade (optional): [ONE OPTIONAL BAR TO STOP GUILTING]
</information_about_me>
 
<response_format>
Standard: **Name**
If-then: one line
Freedom chemistry: one short line
Downgrade: one line, or "none"
Nothing else.
</response_format>

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Example output

Sample answer (DRAFT — illustrative, not a real member's words)

Standard: Posted before Club
If-then: If it is Club morning, I hit publish on the one short piece before 10:00 — even if the draft is imperfect.
Freedom chemistry: Shoulders drop and I can sit in the room without the open tab guilt.
Downgrade: “Write a perfect essay every weekday” — optional, not a bar.

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2 · Check and send

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